Affects of Recession and the Fact that I Chose to be a Stay-at-Home Mom
The summer this year is spent mostly at the the OPSU's Noble Center where the pool is located. Our usual trip to California has been canceled because of the fact that we probably should not have gone to California last summer but with my dad just having died at the beginning of June 2008 I felt my mom was needing to see me and my family in almost a reassurance measure even though she is happy healthy and more than likely will have another fifteen or more years to live on this earth. Just because my dad died at age sixty-five of cancer does not mean that my mom will die the same way. The one thing I learned from my dad is that when aches and pains become unmanageable or whatnot then go to the doctor right then, don't wait.
The pool will keep at least me and the girls happy for the rest of the summer! My older girl is now able to swim and my youngest is becoming more comfortable with the water. I personally feel a whole lot better after swimming as it helps loosen the muscles in my right arm that often feels stiff these days.
There is no doubt that yes I will miss seeing my family but I think we need a break from the four days stuffed in the van for travel. We will definitely be going next summer as I will be having my twentieth high school reunion which I am overly excited about.
Does it Matter that I Want a Career?
Not just a job. I know the economy is bad and that careers in the university systems are scarce but that is what I have wanted to do since about 1993 and this is something that my husband has known since I got my job as a Disabled Student Services Student Assistant the first year we knew each other. I have to say that I have tried my hand at other jobs and feel as though with my disability that II need to focus my attention on things that will not make me jeopardize my own health or others, for that matter.
Not just a job. I know the economy is bad and that careers in the university systems are scarce but that is what I have wanted to do since about 1993 and this is something that my husband has known since I got my job as a Disabled Student Services Student Assistant the first year we knew each other. I have to say that I have tried my hand at other jobs and feel as though with my disability that II need to focus my attention on things that will not make me jeopardize my own health or others, for that matter.
Since 1993, I have known that I wanted to work with college/university students to help them get through the struggles of the life of school, work and possible family. The reason why I got my Master’s in Social Work is because I was told by my supervisor at the Disabled Student Services Office at Cal State Fullerton, Lisa Thies, that if I really wanted her job that I would at least need a Masters degree in something so in 1997 I went back to school to get my Masters after having a son who was then barely one and a husband in grad school himself. My ultimate hopes were to get a job at the university from which my husband was a professor after he finished his journey as a grad student.
Never once did I believe that he would get a job at a small university in the middle of nowhere where the general philosophy is that there is no need for a true office for disabled students because there are not that many in the area. According to the Americans with Disabilities Act of 1990 (ADA, 1990), it is technically part of what should be on every campus across the nation including Alaska and Hawaii. The way they get around not having a true office is that they make the Counseling offices and departments take on double duty and deal with counseling, testing, and disabled student issues. I understand that at small universities there are budgetary issues that would cause them to cut certain things or not care in the first place but what happened to enforcing the laws that are in place. The universities should at least have a disability coordinator on campus so that the students with disabilities have an advocate that cares about them alone. I also feel that at this campus per se that there are many learning disabled students not able to be identified in the first place because they have no idea where to start or how to become identified in the first place. If there was a coordinator at least there is someone who can find professionals who could help them identify their setbacks.
Not just a job. I know the economy is bad and that careers in the university systems are scarce but that is what I have wanted to do since about 1993 and this is something that my husband has known since I got my job as a Disabled Student Services Student Assistant the first year we knew each other. I have to say that I have tried my hand at other jobs and feel as though with my disability that II need to focus my attention on things that will not make me jeopardize my own health or others, for that matter.
Since 1993, I have known that I wanted to work with college/university students to help them get through the struggles of the life of school, work and possible family. The reason why I got my Master’s in Social Work is because I was told by my supervisor at the Disabled Student Services Office at Cal State Fullerton, Lisa Thies, that if I really wanted her job that I would at least need a Masters degree in something so in 1997 I went back to school to get my Masters after having a son who was then barely one and a husband in grad school himself. My ultimate hopes were to get a job at the university from which my husband was a professor after he finished his journey as a grad student.
Never once did I believe that he would get a job at a small university in the middle of nowhere where the general philosophy is that there is no need for a true office for disabled students because there are not that many in the area. According to the Americans with Disabilities Act of 1990 (ADA, 1990), it is technically part of what should be on every campus across the nation including Alaska and Hawaii. The way they get around not having a true office is that they make the Counseling offices and departments take on double duty and deal with counseling, testing, and disabled student issues. I understand that at small universities there are budgetary issues that would cause them to cut certain things or not care in the first place but what happened to enforcing the laws that are in place. The universities should at least have a disability coordinator on campus so that the students with disabilities have an advocate that cares about them alone. I also feel that at this campus per se that there are many learning disabled students not able to be identified in the first place because they have no idea where to start or how to become identified in the first place. If there was a coordinator at least there is someone who can find professionals who could help them identify their setbacks.
So Much Seems to be Happening
I am really not going to go into the details except for the fact that my family has undergone a whole bunch of stress. I have gone to being a little bit more anonymous than I like but I will do anything for my family. I am sorry I cannot be anymore forward but just know that I am still the same person and will not let others change who I am and I do not expect my husband to change anything he does because that is what I fell in love with when I first met him over seventeen years ago.
I love my husband more than ever because of the fact that he stands up for what he believes in and does not let others opinions shut him up or change him just to conform to the norm. I have to say I always admired those scientists who even though their scientific findings may not be popular they stick up for the results they have found.
Just leave us alone, Bitch!!! Leave us alone!!!
I love my husband more than ever because of the fact that he stands up for what he believes in and does not let others opinions shut him up or change him just to conform to the norm. I have to say I always admired those scientists who even though their scientific findings may not be popular they stick up for the results they have found.
Just leave us alone, Bitch!!! Leave us alone!!!
So Much to Think About....
My youngest girl will be going off to school this next year and I will no longer need to be home for her during the morning hours thus I need to have something to do: A job, a life beyond my kids. I am not saying that my job as a mother is done as it is just beginning because I am having to monitor my kids and especially dealing with misconceptions I feel they get from friends and other people in the outside world. My main thing is I need to have something to do besides sit at home while my kids are at school during the weekdays.
I may have to put my writing career on the back burning and just get a boring sit down job at the university because there is nothing else available that I can do. I know that I must have a job that does not entail me standing all day because of my disability and the meds I take to stay healthy. The good thing is that I always wanted to work with professors and college students in a university/college atmosphere -- thus I guess I should not complain to much if I must go below what my degrees have afforded me and take any job that I am qualified to do. I will do that if I must as I doubt that the university my husband is at will ever have a true Disabled Student Services office because they find it unnecessary to even place someone with experience with that population of students in the counseling office. I know that they are trying to do what they think is best but even so I believe that there are students struggling with disability and learning issues that are not being identified because of the lack of an advocate to help them out.
I may have to put my writing career on the back burning and just get a boring sit down job at the university because there is nothing else available that I can do. I know that I must have a job that does not entail me standing all day because of my disability and the meds I take to stay healthy. The good thing is that I always wanted to work with professors and college students in a university/college atmosphere -- thus I guess I should not complain to much if I must go below what my degrees have afforded me and take any job that I am qualified to do. I will do that if I must as I doubt that the university my husband is at will ever have a true Disabled Student Services office because they find it unnecessary to even place someone with experience with that population of students in the counseling office. I know that they are trying to do what they think is best but even so I believe that there are students struggling with disability and learning issues that are not being identified because of the lack of an advocate to help them out.
I Wonder All the Time!
Is there any way that my family and I will be accepted in this right-wing state we live in. There are many times that I wish that people could look past the fact that my husband and I are Liberal and Democrat respectively and notice that we are people to and we are going to be living among them until my husband retires from the university he currently is a professor at in the Panhandle of Oklahoma.
The fact is that people in big Metropolitan cities have learned to live amongst diversity for many decades and several centuries and possibly longer in other countries: Why is it then that small towns and even states have a hard time when a few people speak out on their own beliefs that defer from the majority in the town or state, or even region of the country?
I am not going to succumb to the norm just because it is the 'right' thing to do. Conforming has never been my way of life and thus it will never happen!I am never going to be a Republican and I continue to make my own choices and thus think critically when it comes to EVERY aspect of my life including politics and my spiritual journey through life. I am the one living MY life no one else and thus I am going to make my own decisions that makes ME happy.
JAMES, I LOVE YOU AND EVERYTHING YOU ARE ABOUT!
The fact is that people in big Metropolitan cities have learned to live amongst diversity for many decades and several centuries and possibly longer in other countries: Why is it then that small towns and even states have a hard time when a few people speak out on their own beliefs that defer from the majority in the town or state, or even region of the country?
I am not going to succumb to the norm just because it is the 'right' thing to do. Conforming has never been my way of life and thus it will never happen!I am never going to be a Republican and I continue to make my own choices and thus think critically when it comes to EVERY aspect of my life including politics and my spiritual journey through life. I am the one living MY life no one else and thus I am going to make my own decisions that makes ME happy.
JAMES, I LOVE YOU AND EVERYTHING YOU ARE ABOUT!
Lost Stella Yesterday!
Fluffball Stella 2001-5/7/2009
We are a little sad around our house as we lost another cat, Fluffball Stella. I took her to the vet yesterday knowing deep down that we were going to have to put her down. She was between seven and eight years old and will be missed tremendously. Her white blood cell count was threw the roof and she lost a lot of muscle mass and more. I am just really glad she is not suffering anymore.
On my Mind!
Money, Money, Money -- I need money! I am really going to have to break down and finally go back to work I am just not sure what, or how. I hope to get a job at the university where my husband works although I will probably have to beg them to hire me as an over-qualified individual as before we got here nine years ago I had already gotten my Master's in Social Work as I was hoping to work with disabled students on a college or university campus.
There are a few advantages I see about getting a job at the university instead of anywhere else. The first advantage being no travel and the second is I would still have tons of time with my family. I feel that the most important thing is my family -- children need one or both parents when they are home. I also don't want to lose all my income to external costs such as daycare, travel expenses, clothes, lunches, and everything else that comes with a job away from the town I live in.
My ideal job of course would be working with disabled students on campus here as I feel that there are more students who are missing diagnosis and the accommodations they deserve under the ADA(1990) than the university has and/or can identify due to lack of funds to the counseling office that helps those with disabilities. I would take any job at this rate because of the fact that I have not had a true job since '99 as I have stayed busy raising my three kids. I would like to stay within a university setting so that I can work closely with college students.
There are a few advantages I see about getting a job at the university instead of anywhere else. The first advantage being no travel and the second is I would still have tons of time with my family. I feel that the most important thing is my family -- children need one or both parents when they are home. I also don't want to lose all my income to external costs such as daycare, travel expenses, clothes, lunches, and everything else that comes with a job away from the town I live in.
My ideal job of course would be working with disabled students on campus here as I feel that there are more students who are missing diagnosis and the accommodations they deserve under the ADA(1990) than the university has and/or can identify due to lack of funds to the counseling office that helps those with disabilities. I would take any job at this rate because of the fact that I have not had a true job since '99 as I have stayed busy raising my three kids. I would like to stay within a university setting so that I can work closely with college students.
Nadya Does it Again!
The latest from CNN and Showbiz Tonight on Headline News is that Ms. Suleman has kicked the Angels in Waiting charity helpers and nurses out of her house. Why am I not surprised! Suleman will do anything to keep her name in the news and with that she is doing a fantastic job -- the thing she can't get through her thick skull is that there is no way she will be able to raise these kids alone. I guess she has also run her own mother off as well. I wonder how all of this will effect the release of the remaining four babies in the hospital. Scary thought, if you ask me!
Living in the Country -- The Oklahoma Great Plains
I love it here even though it is much different than how I grew up as I grew up in Orange County, CA where the nearest store was less than two miles away and now is about two blocks away from the house I grew up in. The thing is that families there live on top of one another and they really have little to no yards unless they are like my parents that happen to live on a golf course.
I now live in a rural town in the country on the panhandle of Oklahoma where I am raising my three kids (a boy and two girls), four cats, and three dogs. The thing I love the most is that when my kids want to go out and play I do not have to worry too much that something or someone may hurt them (or snatch them) from me. The other thing I like is I know most people by face if not by name.
The thing I like the most though is I can be who I am, for the most part. I am a stay at home mom and I can do that because the cost of living is lower than in the big cities. Yes, we could use ten to twenty thousand more dollars and my hope is once my third child is in school full-time that I could at least work part-time to make up the difference. The other thing I would like to do is make the university systems and state governments aware that they need to pay professors what they are worth depending on the education they have received.
I now live in a rural town in the country on the panhandle of Oklahoma where I am raising my three kids (a boy and two girls), four cats, and three dogs. The thing I love the most is that when my kids want to go out and play I do not have to worry too much that something or someone may hurt them (or snatch them) from me. The other thing I like is I know most people by face if not by name.
The thing I like the most though is I can be who I am, for the most part. I am a stay at home mom and I can do that because the cost of living is lower than in the big cities. Yes, we could use ten to twenty thousand more dollars and my hope is once my third child is in school full-time that I could at least work part-time to make up the difference. The other thing I would like to do is make the university systems and state governments aware that they need to pay professors what they are worth depending on the education they have received.
Give Nadya Suleman a Break!
The poor woman has finally come to her senses and is getting help and has gotten a house big enough, for the time being, for all fourteen kids. OK, yes, the house needs a tone of work and I believe that with The Angels in Waiting charity group it will all get done so let's now give her a chance to breathe and get what she needs to have done, done before the babies start coming home.
Seriously, she has just come to the realization that her life has been turned upside down by the birth of the octuplets now give her a chance to get things done: Get off her Frickin' doorsteps for awhile! I have to say that we treat her as bad as we treated Brittany Spears not to long ago. How many times to we have to see her walk from her front door top her car before we have had enough. Stay away Paparazzi! She is not a celebrity just for having octuplets (or even fourteen kids in all). The person we should be following is the fertility doctor that allowed this to happen in the first place, not her!
As a person with a master's in social work, I do care about the kids involved but she is trying her hardest to get her life and family in order so damn give her the chance and back off the poor woman!
Seriously, she has just come to the realization that her life has been turned upside down by the birth of the octuplets now give her a chance to get things done: Get off her Frickin' doorsteps for awhile! I have to say that we treat her as bad as we treated Brittany Spears not to long ago. How many times to we have to see her walk from her front door top her car before we have had enough. Stay away Paparazzi! She is not a celebrity just for having octuplets (or even fourteen kids in all). The person we should be following is the fertility doctor that allowed this to happen in the first place, not her!
As a person with a master's in social work, I do care about the kids involved but she is trying her hardest to get her life and family in order so damn give her the chance and back off the poor woman!
Not much Going On in My Life
Today is just another day of the same old, same old!
I do have to say that I was glad to hear on the news that Nadya Suleman has finally taken the offer from Gloria Allred and the Angels in Waiting charity to help her with the octuplets. She has also gotten a four bedroom house that some are saying that is not big enough for fourteen kids but I am just happy that she is coming to her senses and not living in a fantasy anymore. The article is at: Octomom Nadya Suleman’s new baby: $565G digs for brood. In the article it also stated that she was giving up her wish to become the next reality TV star.
Anyway that is all that is really in my mind at the moment so sorry I am not more interesting today!
I do have to say that I was glad to hear on the news that Nadya Suleman has finally taken the offer from Gloria Allred and the Angels in Waiting charity to help her with the octuplets. She has also gotten a four bedroom house that some are saying that is not big enough for fourteen kids but I am just happy that she is coming to her senses and not living in a fantasy anymore. The article is at: Octomom Nadya Suleman’s new baby: $565G digs for brood. In the article it also stated that she was giving up her wish to become the next reality TV star.
Anyway that is all that is really in my mind at the moment so sorry I am not more interesting today!
Frustrated at mobile phone
That is where I am emotionally right now. I was hoping that I could figure out how to transfer my pix from my phone to my computer once I got the USB port I needed. Well I got it and I still can't get the PIX off and I have a few really cute ones and they are stuck. I am not sure but I have a feeling it is my Verizon plan I am currently on. All I know is I want to the PIX and I want them on my computer now.
Heck if anyone who is anyone knows anything about the LG VX8300. The main thing I need to know is whether there is a convient way to get my PIX off phone and into my computer... Sigh!
Heck if anyone who is anyone knows anything about the LG VX8300. The main thing I need to know is whether there is a convient way to get my PIX off phone and into my computer... Sigh!
Tatiana back as Wild Card Possibilitty Tonight on American Idol
Serious? What the hell are you thinking Simon, Paula, Randy, and Kara? She is so annoying? My hope now is that she does not make it as one of the three wild cards that ends up on the final twelve contestants although I am guessing, or is it praying, she won't make it through tonight.
Survivor is on tonight as well but I can't get into the season so I guess I will watch AI.
Survivor is on tonight as well but I can't get into the season so I guess I will watch AI.
Sunrises and Crossword Puzzles
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Jason Mesnick go to .....
I am sure you can complete the sentence if you saw the finale of The Bachelor last night. How dare you break up with one and then ten minutes later ask the other out on a date all in what was cut to be one hour. OK, so we don't know exactly how long it took for The Bachelor: After the Final Rose to actually tape but damn even if it was all in one day you just don't do that.
First your break-up with Melissa was horrible and should have been private -- done before coming on the show. I felt so sorry for Melissa as you did it so publicly and even took the ring back (at least on the show although I hope you did the right thing and give it back to the producers). I have to say I would not have been as nice as Melissa because I would have slapped you hard across the face as I called you a bastard.
Secondly, if you really wanted to start re-dating Molly you should have asked her off screen. What the F&*^ were you thinking I am so hoping that Melissa never watched this last show because I am sure she is hurting even more than getting dumped if she watched you re-ask out Molly. You are a Jerk and remind me of some of the scums of the earth!
My advice to Molly is: RUN fast, who knows when he will change his mind again...Is he gonna want Jillian back next.
The question I have for Jason is: What the hell happened to your first marriage anyway? How did that one end?
First your break-up with Melissa was horrible and should have been private -- done before coming on the show. I felt so sorry for Melissa as you did it so publicly and even took the ring back (at least on the show although I hope you did the right thing and give it back to the producers). I have to say I would not have been as nice as Melissa because I would have slapped you hard across the face as I called you a bastard.
Secondly, if you really wanted to start re-dating Molly you should have asked her off screen. What the F&*^ were you thinking I am so hoping that Melissa never watched this last show because I am sure she is hurting even more than getting dumped if she watched you re-ask out Molly. You are a Jerk and remind me of some of the scums of the earth!
My advice to Molly is: RUN fast, who knows when he will change his mind again...Is he gonna want Jillian back next.
The question I have for Jason is: What the hell happened to your first marriage anyway? How did that one end?
People Wonder Why I Stay in Oklahoma
Well the simple answer is that I feel safe here and feel that it is one of the best places to raise kids in an environment that has little worry. I also live here because my husband has a job that is secure as long as the university is here or more than likely until he retires -- with the economy the way it is currently it is very important to be in a place where your job is stable and in no risk of being taken from right under you due to the economy and whatnot. My husband is a professor and now has tenure which means that his job is pretty much guaranteed him unless he totally screws up and goes to class for a lecture drunk and naked.
I like the fact that there are not a lot of people where I live as well. The space is nice and I do not live on top of anyone and I would even be okay with someday getting a little land outside of the town we currently live in so I can be more to myself. I would also like to have a horse of my very own and get back to what I enjoyed to do as a child when I rode horses as a form of therapy.
I figure my husband and I will be here until the day he retires and then we will decide then where to retire which will probably be in a city or suburb that is near a hospital and medical facilities that can take care of us in old age. The thing is that I am not sure what is going to happen to me as I age because of my cerebral palsy and seizure disorder -- my hope and prayer is that nothing will happen but who knows. All I can say is I am healthy and happy now and I am living in a place I have always wanted to live since I was little and would go visit my maternal grandparents in West Texas which is very rural in many places especially where they lived and my grandfather preached.
I know I complain a whole heck of a lot about the professors' salaries around here especially but that is because I would like to see it changed and hopefully someday someone will do something about it rather than not caring. I want people to understand that these men and women spend many years of their life getting an education (as well as spending lots of money and acquiring student loans) so that they can then go to educate others. The problem then is that professors are not paid enough to raise a family and pay off their student loans and other debts they have acquired. My belief is the states need to take better care of those that educate their children and that means they need to pay them higher wages so they can get by without feeling like they are sinking further in a financial whole each and every month.
I like the fact that there are not a lot of people where I live as well. The space is nice and I do not live on top of anyone and I would even be okay with someday getting a little land outside of the town we currently live in so I can be more to myself. I would also like to have a horse of my very own and get back to what I enjoyed to do as a child when I rode horses as a form of therapy.
I figure my husband and I will be here until the day he retires and then we will decide then where to retire which will probably be in a city or suburb that is near a hospital and medical facilities that can take care of us in old age. The thing is that I am not sure what is going to happen to me as I age because of my cerebral palsy and seizure disorder -- my hope and prayer is that nothing will happen but who knows. All I can say is I am healthy and happy now and I am living in a place I have always wanted to live since I was little and would go visit my maternal grandparents in West Texas which is very rural in many places especially where they lived and my grandfather preached.
I know I complain a whole heck of a lot about the professors' salaries around here especially but that is because I would like to see it changed and hopefully someday someone will do something about it rather than not caring. I want people to understand that these men and women spend many years of their life getting an education (as well as spending lots of money and acquiring student loans) so that they can then go to educate others. The problem then is that professors are not paid enough to raise a family and pay off their student loans and other debts they have acquired. My belief is the states need to take better care of those that educate their children and that means they need to pay them higher wages so they can get by without feeling like they are sinking further in a financial whole each and every month.
Proud Again to be an American
I no longer feel ashamed to call myself an American because I feel that we now have a President who is not afraid to say that we are in dire need of help and change in order to get out of our financial ruin that we are faced at the moment, My only hope is that congress and the President's administration have learned from their past mistakes and put in a better checks and balances so the money that we are spending on the stimulus package goes for change and not luxuries for the richest of the rich.
The other thing I am liking (although concerned about) is the fact that education is important to Obama. The thing that inspires me is that he wants to see the young go on to get a higher education which is important to get a job that pays more than minimum wage. The thing that concerns me is that people will go on to get graduate degrees and like myself (and my husband) and cannot find a job that pays enough to raise a family and pay the student loans that are acquired by furthering their education. People should get paid for what they have put into getting educated in the first place. In states like Oklahoma (and other somewhat rural-ish states) I can attest to the fact that this is not happening because our professors with Ph.D's are being paid less than the athletic staff (sometimes with less education) that are at the same colleges and universities.
I would also like to say that I support Obama's signing the bill to close Guantanamo Bay. It makes me sick to see that others are detained indefinitely for crimes they may or may not have committed, if they are criminals then charge them and put them through a trial immediately instead of waiting and waiting.
The other thing I am liking (although concerned about) is the fact that education is important to Obama. The thing that inspires me is that he wants to see the young go on to get a higher education which is important to get a job that pays more than minimum wage. The thing that concerns me is that people will go on to get graduate degrees and like myself (and my husband) and cannot find a job that pays enough to raise a family and pay the student loans that are acquired by furthering their education. People should get paid for what they have put into getting educated in the first place. In states like Oklahoma (and other somewhat rural-ish states) I can attest to the fact that this is not happening because our professors with Ph.D's are being paid less than the athletic staff (sometimes with less education) that are at the same colleges and universities.
I would also like to say that I support Obama's signing the bill to close Guantanamo Bay. It makes me sick to see that others are detained indefinitely for crimes they may or may not have committed, if they are criminals then charge them and put them through a trial immediately instead of waiting and waiting.
Eating Dinner at Home
Not only is it cheaper but it is becoming more fun as the kids get older. My son for instance can help me on the few days a week that I cook. We have fun and try and experiment when we get the chance. Chicken for instance is one of our favorite to try different spice and combinations to see if they work: Unfortunately, we are not allowed to prepare the chicken that often because a certain Dad of his *wink wink*, you know who you are, thinks that we do it wrong and that it tastes funny because it does taste different than his recipe. Well the thing we do is we hold a license to change what the cookbook says in various ways to make it our own -- isn't that how cooks and chefs make something their own.
My advice: Experimentation is a good thing if taken in a way that does not truly ruin the thing you are making. I think my husband just needs to accept change a little better and have a more open mind to differences between two styles of cooking. :-)
My advice: Experimentation is a good thing if taken in a way that does not truly ruin the thing you are making. I think my husband just needs to accept change a little better and have a more open mind to differences between two styles of cooking. :-)
Small Breasted Woman Rant
I have to say that I get really upset when I go looking for new bras because I cannot find many in my size because I am so small chested. There are times I think I would be better off going to the tween section of clothing stores so that I can find my size but then I just feel awkward because my daughters are much younger than those sizes and thus I feel I don't belong there in the first place. Thus the only way I can buy my bras because I live out in the middle of nowhere is online and even then when I start looking I am limited to only a few bras and the few dig right into my shoulders all day because the straps are so thin.
All I ask is that more clothing stores should cater to the few of us that have small chests and nothing to speak of. If you look in the actual stores of JCPenney's and many others I am sure the smallest size you can find is a 34A well I am a 32B and love it and I am proud of the figure I have been able to maintain after having three kids. I know that I live in one of the fattest states in the union but I am not fat and I also need clothes that fit and not fall off when I place them on my skinny body.
My two cents on being me and not someone else.
All I ask is that more clothing stores should cater to the few of us that have small chests and nothing to speak of. If you look in the actual stores of JCPenney's and many others I am sure the smallest size you can find is a 34A well I am a 32B and love it and I am proud of the figure I have been able to maintain after having three kids. I know that I live in one of the fattest states in the union but I am not fat and I also need clothes that fit and not fall off when I place them on my skinny body.
My two cents on being me and not someone else.
The Oscars I Will Not Watch
Yes, you read right: I will not be watching them. The main reason is because I hate all the acceptance speeched and I can get the results almost instintaneously through the wonderful world of the Internet. I will probably watch the Barbara Walter's Special but that is because at 6pm central time on Sundays there is usually very little to watch anyway.
After Walter's special I will change to CBS and catch The Amazing Race. I usually try and watch every week because it thankfully comes on before Desperate Housewives which is not on tonight because of the Oscars. I have also thought about trying to catch Charlie and the Chocolate Factory on the Family Channel.
After Walter's special I will change to CBS and catch The Amazing Race. I usually try and watch every week because it thankfully comes on before Desperate Housewives which is not on tonight because of the Oscars. I have also thought about trying to catch Charlie and the Chocolate Factory on the Family Channel.
Frustration of Living in a Small Town and Job Availability
The worst thing about living in a small town is when you already have an advanced degree there are times that small towns and cities don't want to honor the fact that you got a degree that qualifies you for a job. the employers would rather hire those with the fewest degrees so they don't have to pay for the experience. I am ready to go back to work no matter what my husband thinks I truly want because I am sick of living at the level that I am living at economically at the moment... I would love to afford some luxuries we cannot currently afford.
All of this and developing a new resumè is on my mind at the moment.
All of this and developing a new resumè is on my mind at the moment.
Grey's Anatomy and Private Practice Crossover
Final Event Tonight!
I am so glad because as you know if you have been following my last three blog entries regarding the event I am torn between watching the last season of ER and Private Practice. My opinion is ABC should never have moved Private Practice to the same night and time of ER especially during the final season of the hit show.
As usually I will get through the first hour of the crossover and am hoping that Derek does actually propose to Meredith although I could imagine the writers making us want more and thus have Derek get cold feet yet again. I will then wait until tomorrow morning to watch the second hour via the wonderful use of the Internet.
I love the fact that the networks now place many of their shows on the Internet because of the fact that it can be difficult to catch the first airings of every show especially since networks compete against each other on primetime.
I am so glad because as you know if you have been following my last three blog entries regarding the event I am torn between watching the last season of ER and Private Practice. My opinion is ABC should never have moved Private Practice to the same night and time of ER especially during the final season of the hit show.
As usually I will get through the first hour of the crossover and am hoping that Derek does actually propose to Meredith although I could imagine the writers making us want more and thus have Derek get cold feet yet again. I will then wait until tomorrow morning to watch the second hour via the wonderful use of the Internet.
I love the fact that the networks now place many of their shows on the Internet because of the fact that it can be difficult to catch the first airings of every show especially since networks compete against each other on primetime.
American Idol
Tatiana is finally eliminated!
I am so thankfully even though I think she did well in her singing I do not think that she had what it takes to relate to the audience enough and I personally would not want to waste my money on a person who would spend the first and last half hour of a two hour performance thanking everyone there and those involved in the production of the show.
I have to say that I am happy with the three that did make it through but don't ask me their names because I don't remember and I really did not pay too much attention to tonight's show or last nights for that matter. I am more interested in the show in the very beginning, the first week or so of the Hollywood week, and then after they get through to the last five or so of the best.
The other show I will be watching this evening is Life on Mars but I hate the fact that my husband cannot sit and watch it with me because he has a Wednesday night class that keeps him busy until ten.
I am so thankfully even though I think she did well in her singing I do not think that she had what it takes to relate to the audience enough and I personally would not want to waste my money on a person who would spend the first and last half hour of a two hour performance thanking everyone there and those involved in the production of the show.
I have to say that I am happy with the three that did make it through but don't ask me their names because I don't remember and I really did not pay too much attention to tonight's show or last nights for that matter. I am more interested in the show in the very beginning, the first week or so of the Hollywood week, and then after they get through to the last five or so of the best.
The other show I will be watching this evening is Life on Mars but I hate the fact that my husband cannot sit and watch it with me because he has a Wednesday night class that keeps him busy until ten.
What to Write About, What to Write About...
I am at a loss about something to write about on this day. I probably should spend some time catching up on shows that I have missed due to the fact that I don't get CW network from which I miss the new Beverly Hills 90210 and on the Family channel I miss The Secret Life of the American Teenager because it is on at the same time as The Bachelor. I know these two shows are for teenagers but I like the messages they give to others and especially the teenagers that watch the show. I also think that the few parents that are addicted to it, like myself, it keeps us grounded on reality. I have a son who is almost thirteen so I feel I need to be attuned to what is important to a teenager these days.
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My advice: First of all stay attuned to your teenager(s) and do not close up when you teenager wants to talk that will shut them up maybe the rest of their teenage years and that could hurt them in the end. Now, I am not advising that you be their best friend because my belief is that it is at this time they need a parent and role model the most. There are so many temptations that come their way that it is up to us parents to nip it before anything bad happens. Try not to show that you are scared of anything they bring to you and if you need to do your own research or simply do not have an answer to their question let them now because honesty is the best policy. The thankful thing is that unlike our own parents we have the Internet to do research on things we do not understand or need more information on...use what resources you have to get the information you need to answer a teens questions.
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My advice: First of all stay attuned to your teenager(s) and do not close up when you teenager wants to talk that will shut them up maybe the rest of their teenage years and that could hurt them in the end. Now, I am not advising that you be their best friend because my belief is that it is at this time they need a parent and role model the most. There are so many temptations that come their way that it is up to us parents to nip it before anything bad happens. Try not to show that you are scared of anything they bring to you and if you need to do your own research or simply do not have an answer to their question let them now because honesty is the best policy. The thankful thing is that unlike our own parents we have the Internet to do research on things we do not understand or need more information on...use what resources you have to get the information you need to answer a teens questions.
The Bachelor
Jason has three women left and yes my likes and dislikes have not changed Molly then Jillian are still my favorites. I am thinking he may not end up with anyone of them because of the fact that DeAnna comes back saying he wants Jason back. What the Heck!?! I personally would not take her back as who knows what she would be like in a relationship... Please don't end up with DeAnna she is not worth it in my opinion. Of course, my husband would say that no one you meet in this type of way would not be worth spending the rest of your life with because they are looking for fame only and in that I can understand.
On TV Tonight
Thursdays are a great night for TV. The shows I shall watch are Survivor, Grey's Anatomy and Private Practice. I have a dilemma though because ER is also on this evening and because it is the last season it may win out and I will catch the second half of the Grey's/Private Practice crossover tomorrow morning. I will be seeing how good the crossover is after all the hype ABC is giving the episode, I am usually wary when it comes to combining two shows but hopefully it will be good because i hate wasting my time, hehe.
Survivor is new and I have no knowledge of even where this one is located but after the first episode I will know whether the current cast of characters is worth watching for the whole season, lately it has not been worth watching because well the characters have no substance. What can I say: Maybe it is time for that show to stop trying for two seasons per year. Just a thought from a TV reality addict.
Survivor is new and I have no knowledge of even where this one is located but after the first episode I will know whether the current cast of characters is worth watching for the whole season, lately it has not been worth watching because well the characters have no substance. What can I say: Maybe it is time for that show to stop trying for two seasons per year. Just a thought from a TV reality addict.
American Idol: What Are You Thinking?
Tatiana, really? I am almost as sick of her as I am of Nadya Suleman. Tatiana has very little talent and off the stage she can not even complete a sentence without thanking Jesus and all those around her. She drives me batty and if she keeps on keeping on I will probably have to stop watching or risk breaking my own TV with the pots and pans I throw towards it after every one of her performances.
There are a few others that I am really unsure about as I think that Simon has fallen off his rocker and allowed the worst of the worst go through just because of their sad stories. You know I have a sad story too and I certainly can't sing very well, if I were younger maybe just maybe I could get through next season, ha ha. No worries I'll spare you, Simon, Randy, Paula, Kara, and the rest of the general public and stay away from ever going through the audition hell. I am not that stupid..I would rather sing off key for laughs anyway, it is more fun to watch the face my husband gives me when I scream instead of sing and yes I am a poet and I know it!
American Idol has truly changed this season!
There are a few others that I am really unsure about as I think that Simon has fallen off his rocker and allowed the worst of the worst go through just because of their sad stories. You know I have a sad story too and I certainly can't sing very well, if I were younger maybe just maybe I could get through next season, ha ha. No worries I'll spare you, Simon, Randy, Paula, Kara, and the rest of the general public and stay away from ever going through the audition hell. I am not that stupid..I would rather sing off key for laughs anyway, it is more fun to watch the face my husband gives me when I scream instead of sing and yes I am a poet and I know it!
American Idol has truly changed this season!
Thoughts of the Day
First of all James was defeated by incumbent Murry Gloude yesterday in the school board election which is all good James will just try again the next time a seat comes up for election. The thing both James and I do plan to do is attend all school board meetings and speak up when we feel it is necessary. The thing we want everyone to know is that we are all for public school education and we are not against the members of our school board we just feel that it is time that there is a changing of the guards because sometimes it takes new blood to keep people on their toes and remember that the most important thing in a school is the students education.
To get more information on my husband's stance please go to: A. James Benjamin, Jr. He will also keep all informed in regards to happenings in the board meetings and more that may directly effect students and parents directly.
To get more information on my husband's stance please go to: A. James Benjamin, Jr. He will also keep all informed in regards to happenings in the board meetings and more that may directly effect students and parents directly.
The Bachelor Last Night
No surprises there that is for sure: Naomi is gone. No offense Naomi because I really like you but your family must have really scared him. I could imagine having so much fun together but the dead dove just about killed me with laughter. I can understand your mom wanting to bury the dove although man did she have to wait a few days until you came with Jason to do the burial.
Of the girls left I like Molly the best but I could see Jason picking Jillian just because she is so fun loving. Molly seems like she would fit in with Jason almost anywhere she moved as long as her parents liked Jason enough, which they seemed to pretty well. Jillian is a lot like Molly in the fun department that is for sure! She is also very into family and that seems to be something Jason wants the most: He wants a person that can stick through the thick and thin of married life which is not always that great wonderful things seen only in fairy tales.
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The advice I give to all you married couples struggling is: Married life is not always great and unfortunately you will have those times when you just want to throw up your hands and run but think before you do so, please. Of course there are exceptions when it comes to whether there is abuse going on or whatnot but for the most part stay and stick it out you will just have to start over afresh. Do you really want to call a good relationship finished? Are you ready for single life again? Do you realize that you will probably not get along with the next person at first or all the time? We all have faults and things that make another go stir crazy? The thing is to remember the good qualities we found in our significant others during the bad times...it will get better, more than likely!
Of the girls left I like Molly the best but I could see Jason picking Jillian just because she is so fun loving. Molly seems like she would fit in with Jason almost anywhere she moved as long as her parents liked Jason enough, which they seemed to pretty well. Jillian is a lot like Molly in the fun department that is for sure! She is also very into family and that seems to be something Jason wants the most: He wants a person that can stick through the thick and thin of married life which is not always that great wonderful things seen only in fairy tales.
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The advice I give to all you married couples struggling is: Married life is not always great and unfortunately you will have those times when you just want to throw up your hands and run but think before you do so, please. Of course there are exceptions when it comes to whether there is abuse going on or whatnot but for the most part stay and stick it out you will just have to start over afresh. Do you really want to call a good relationship finished? Are you ready for single life again? Do you realize that you will probably not get along with the next person at first or all the time? We all have faults and things that make another go stir crazy? The thing is to remember the good qualities we found in our significant others during the bad times...it will get better, more than likely!
Come, Come, Come
I want you here and I want you now. I love the fact that I have opened this blog for me to talk about everything, anything, and nothing in particular. At the moment I have nothing to talk about but what is nothing when words still come to me and beg to be written on a page for someone to read.
Desperate Housewives: A good episode after the fumble they had with a very minor character that died and allowed all the housewives to remember how they got to Wisteria Lane in the first place. Last night the fact that Porter was not even in the building when the fire started and that Edie's husband was the one who started the rumor in the first place. Hopefully soon that characters whole history will be revealed and he will be sent to prison or a mental hospital where he should be at the moment -- and does he have another family?
The Bachelor is on this evening but I am going to have to catch up with it tomorrow some time because I have places to go this evening in order to continue to keep the school board honest.
Desperate Housewives: A good episode after the fumble they had with a very minor character that died and allowed all the housewives to remember how they got to Wisteria Lane in the first place. Last night the fact that Porter was not even in the building when the fire started and that Edie's husband was the one who started the rumor in the first place. Hopefully soon that characters whole history will be revealed and he will be sent to prison or a mental hospital where he should be at the moment -- and does he have another family?
The Bachelor is on this evening but I am going to have to catch up with it tomorrow some time because I have places to go this evening in order to continue to keep the school board honest.
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